What’s the story, then?
I’ve shared before how my journey to becoming a business owner of a private practice, as well as a clinical lead and principal psychological therapist, has been both challenging and fast-paced. It’s been an exciting ride that’s required immense strength. Let me take you back to the beginning.
The beginning, well not the very beginning…
During my A-levels, I studied Chemistry, Biology, Physics, and Psychology. At that time, I wasn’t entirely sure what career path I wanted to follow. My father, who played a significant role in guiding my early career decisions, wanted to ensure I had a stable and respected job, especially as a Black woman. If you’ve read my previous posts on being Black, you’ll understand how this ties in. My father was determined that I wouldn’t be limited to the roles often reserved for Black people, so he steered me toward medicine or pharmacy. I even did a placement in a pharmacy, but during that time, I became fascinated by psychology. After talking with my God-sister, who gave me books on CBT and psychology, I realised this was what I truly wanted to pursue. So, after finishing my A-levels, I changed direction and applied for a psychology degree.
University was tough. I worked hard, balancing three volunteer placements alongside my studies. In my final year, my grandmother had a stroke, which made things even more challenging, but I pushed through and graduated. I also worked at Bodycare (retail) and did night shifts on an inpatient ward, all while managing my volunteer roles. These experiences were crucial in building my understanding of hard work and mental health, and although I didn’t have a mentor to guide me, I was determined to succeed.
There is movement!
One of my volunteer placements was on the inpatient ward where I eventually secured paid work. I also volunteered at a toy library for children with learning disabilities and at Mind, a mental health charity. After graduation, I worked in brain injury services, learning disabilities, and alongside a clinical psychologist. I decided to apply for the clinical psychology doctorate, but after two unsuccessful attempts, I gave up. Looking back, I realise I lacked the patience to persist as some people do-I’ve met individuals who applied 4 or 5 times or finally got in, on their fifth try.
I shifted my focus back to mental health, working in crisis teams, where I thrived as a healthcare support worker. However, I encountered a humiliating experience during a multidisciplinary meeting when a doctor dismissed me because of my role, and possibly because of my race. This incident, though painful, became a turning point. With support from my manager, who defended my capabilities, I decided to focus on CBT and applied for CBT based training roles.
Getting into training as a psychological well-being practitioner was tough, but I succeeded. However, my job at the time didn’t support my aspirations. Still, I was determined. I applied for a new role as a psychological well-being practitioner (PWP) and boldly asked during my interview if they would support me in pursuing a two-year CBT training course. They agreed, and I successfully completed the course while working full-time. I even shared this strategy with a friend from the South Asian community, who used it to advance her career as well.
After completing my CBT training and becoming a CBT therapist, I decided to take on a leadership role within the talking therapies service. While I enjoyed the role, I quickly realised how challenging it was to effect change within a large organisation. Despite my best efforts, I felt limited in what I could achieve. This led me to seek a higher clinical lead role in a new service, where I could build and shape the team from the ground up.
Leading this new service has been incredibly fulfilling. We’ve created a fantastic, inclusive team focused on well-being and client involvement. I finally feel like I’m making a real difference.
The point of this blog…
Then, an unexpected opportunity arose when I started supervising a trainee clinical psychologist on placement from the clinical doctorate program. It was my first time in this supervisory role ( only supervised CBT therapist previously), and it went exceptionally well. The trainee’s positive feedback reached the university, and they invited me to teach on the clinical doctorate program. Initially, I hesitated due to personal challenges and a dip in my confidence, but after some reflection and support from those around me, I accepted the opportunity. Now, as I approach a 3rd year of teaching on the doctorate program, I can say it has been an experience that has greatly boosted my confidence. It reignited my passion for teaching, guiding others, and deepening my love for CBT. This journey reminded me of my own worth and achievements, something I sometimes forget.
This success led me to think about how I could apply my skills to my own business, which ultimately motivated me to start my therapy practice.
It’s incredible to think that 15 years ago, after being rejected from the clinical doctorate program twice, I was now being asked to teach on the same program. Life doesn’t always turn out the way you expect. You might have a specific vision for your journey, and when things don’t go as planned, it can be painful. However, I’ve come to realise that things often happen for a reason. I never envisioned myself teaching on the course when I received those rejection emails all those years ago, but now I’m grateful for how everything unfolded. My journey has become even more powerful because of these unexpected twists and turns.
Through all of this, I’ve learned a great deal about leadership, perseverance, and the importance of opening doors for others. I want to share this knowledge so others can navigate their own paths more easily. That’s why I’ve created this blog and my website-to help others on their journey, from interviews to applications, and beyond.
Oh, and I forgot to mention, amidst all of this, I also became a mother. To be honest, that has been my biggest challenge yet-an incredible journey in its own right. Even though this blog focuses on my career, it’s important to remember that we are more than our job titles. Being a mother is a significant part of my story, and we all have stories that go beyond our work. Whether it’s being a mother, a sister, a friend, pursuing hobbies, creating art, or enjoying music-these are the things that define us. Our personal stories shape who we are and, in turn, support us in our careers.
If I didn’t have all these aspects in my life, I wouldn’t be the therapist I am today.
I hope reading this has sparked something in you, whether it’s igniting a passion or inspiring you to pursue a career in mental health, psychology, or CBT. If you’re looking for support on your journey, I’m here to help. Take a look at my mentoring page to see how I can assist you.
